There are many signs of a toxic relationship. This is both good and bad because of the extra chances of finding them, but it’s likely that more of our relationship is toxic than we ever realized.
If you’re in a toxic relationship or even think it might be your friend or family member, it can be hard to read and accept. But ultimately, it’s best for everyone to get out of a toxic relationship as soon as possible.
1 You are tired. Having a new puppy or newborn should make you feel tired, but the relationship shouldn’t. A happy and healthy relationship should not cause you emotional or physical exhaustion.
If you feel tired and not energized with your partner, it’s a sign of a toxic relationship.
2 You feel worse than you feel good. Toxic relationships manifest in many ways, but no matter what happens, if you feel bad more often than you feel good, you are in a toxic relationship.
3 You are ashamed. Toxic relationships control your actions. You’ll find yourself doing things you never thought you’d do in a million years. These things can really make you feel bad.
When I had a difficult relationship, I would be so ashamed of my actions that my self-esteem would suffer greatly. I no longer considered myself a strong or even a good person, because I let that relationship take over my actions.
4 There is no trust. If you don’t trust your partner, it’s almost impossible to go back from that and vice versa. Of course, some people are just jealous or have trust issues, but this can be resolved under the right circumstances.
But under the wrong circumstances, questions of trust and jealousy can become extremely quick. If your partner thinks they can decide what you wear, who you see, where you go, or who you talk to, it’s not sweet, it’s not protective or caring, it’s toxic and controlling.
5 You are embarrassed to tell your friends about it. It was a sign that led me to realize that I was in a toxic relationship. I went from raving about my relationship to complaining about it, then staying silent or even lying.
I was confused by my actions and how I allowed my relationship to affect me and my behavior. Last year, my friends thought my relationship was over because I never wanted to talk about it. I was saddened by my actions and that I let my ex get away with it. If you feel the same way, make the changes now.
6 You are being manipulated. This is a difficult sign, because it controls you on its own without your knowledge. When manipulating, you rarely notice it, because the person manipulating you is so good at it.
If you look back on your actions and wonder why you did it or how you did it, you are being manipulated. Look at some of the things that have happened in your relationship. If a friend told you what happened in their relationship, what would you say?
7 You cancel other plans for them. Of course, if your partner needs a trip to the hospital, cancel the night for the girl, but also, you shouldn’t feel like you need to put your partner first. You should never feel guilty about making plans with friends, family, or alone.
When I was in a difficult relationship, I would give up on friends and plans that I was looking forward to sitting around and watching my ex play video games. It’s not a good girl, it’s controlled by your toxic relationship. When your relationship destroys or changes your other friendships, something is wrong.
8 You’re always waiting. Healthy relationships have mutual respect and balance. You must both give and receive. You have to make time for each other. Does your partner only spend time with you when it’s convenient?
If you feel like you’re always waiting for them to call, send you a message, or see you, the situation isn’t balanced. It gets worse when they expect you to drop everything on their command. It’s not a relationship, it’s a romantic bondage.
9 You’re scared. In a relationship, we all fear that it will end. And this is normal. But if you’re afraid of your partner’s reaction to being late, having a burning lunch, telling a friend about your relationship, or anything else, it’s completely toxic.
You should never be afraid of your partner for any reason. Of course, we are all nervous, but fear and nerves are not the same. You should feel safe in a healthy relationship. If you don’t feel safe with your partner, either mentally, emotionally, or physically: leave now.
10 No respect. Relationships will never work without respect. Respect is our respect for each other’s feelings, thoughts, and humanity. Without respect, we become inhumane and toxic to each other.
If your relationship goes beyond the usual argument and into territory even remotely disrespectful, it’s not the relationship you want to be in. There is no excuse for your partner not respecting you. Even during the worst fights, respect should always be there.
11 You’re both angry. The main sign of a toxic relationship is a constant struggle. Anger is normal for a relationship, but constant anger leads to rage, unhappiness, and regret.
Anger shouldn’t be a major factor in your relationship. If so, it is toxic to your health, both mental and physical.
12 You avoid them when you need them most. Relationships exist for love and support. But if you can’t go to your partner in a difficult moment, then why be in a relationship?
I had a traumatic experience while with my ex. Instead of going to him for comfort, I didn’t even tell him because I was afraid he would get mad at me for it. It’s NOT a relationship. It’s a toxic presence based on fear.
13 You don’t put yourself first. Regardless of the relationship, always put yourself first. You need to focus on yourself, your mental health, your thinking, and your happiness. If you can’t do this in a relationship, you will be consumed by this toxicity, and then it will be difficult to heal.
14 You would rather be with them than alone. I used to tell myself that being unhappy 24 hours a day with my ex was better than being alone. Boy, I was wrong. Being single can be the best time of your life. You learn so much about yourself and enjoy your freedom like nothing else.
A toxic relationship is never worth it for any reason. No guilt, insecurity, or fear of being alone is worth staying with someone who hurts you.
15 You’re not you. This may seem insignificant compared to other signs of a toxic relationship, but it can destroy you until you completely lose yourself. Relationships should allow you to feel comfortable with who you are.
If you are afraid that your partner will not like you or will judge you for not being healthy. This is completely toxic and can lead to a lot of problems that can seep into the rest of your life.
If these signs of a toxic relationship seem familiar to you, leave right now. Don’t go through, don’t collect $ 100, just leave. You will feel healthier and happier right away.