Don’t give up!
For some lucky people, the period of searching for love passes literally instantly. But still, for many, this topic remains relevant for quite a long time, especially when there is not even a hint of the appearance of a suitable person on the horizon.
And then we constantly ask ourselves: “Why can’t I find love?”, or ” Why doesn’t anyone love me?”, or ” Will I ever be able to meet true love?»
And we also start complaining constantly, saying something like this to ourselves or out loud: “All my dates turn out to be unsuccessful” and “I can’t meet my real soulmate in any way.”
These thoughts are quite natural for the society in which we live. In most world cultures, a person is expected to form a long-term monogamous relationship. Society does everything to make us think from the first day of birth that our only goal in life is to find our other half and calm down.
But at the same time, deep down, we also know that the beginning of a romantic relationship is not the end of life.
There are quite a few reasons for optimism, for example:
You will definitely meet your person when the time comes. You can have a great time before that happens. Even if it doesn’t happen, your life will still be fine.
Below are 8 more reasons to remain optimistic. Most likely, you know about them yourself, but a little reminder will not hurt you.
- Age does not matter.
You may well smile ironically, but it’s true! Age is just a number that doesn’t affect your chances of meeting the right person at all.
- There is no such thing as”a person destined by fate”.
Yes, I firmly believe that the myth of the only person with whom we can be happy was deliberately invented to make us panic into a trap created for us in order to comply with the norms of society.
If you’ve ever been in love, you know how easy it is to feel that the object of your affections is the person that fate has sent you, and that you have no chance of being happy with someone else.
In fact, it’s all the fault of the hormones that rage inside you during your infatuation. And, as you well know, hormones can turn even the most adequate person into a real madman.
Think about it logically. More than seven billion people live on this planet. Of course, (most likely) you will remain indifferent to one of the genders and certain age groups. But, nevertheless, you will still have a choice of at least half a billion options.
It’s a very big ocean with a hell of a lot of fish in it.
And it’s silly to think that just one fish out of all this huge number can make you happy. I don’t want to upset you, but people don’t have as unique an identity as we might think when we’re in love.
Stop thinking that finding love is like finding a needle in a haystack.
- You are growing every day.
A big reason for optimism is that every day of your loneliness allows you to get to know yourself better and better. This gives you the opportunity to accept yourself and understand what kind of life you really want to live.
And every day you have more and more chances to find a partner for a long-term relationship. And the risk of a failed relationship, accordingly, decreases. As they say, wisdom comes with age.
After all, it’s better to be alone than with just anyone.
- You have high standards.
If you are worried that you will never meet love, then most likely you have high standards.
Never lower them. Too many people make compromises with their ideas about the desired partner just because they are afraid to be alone.
Understanding your own worth and not wanting to settle for anything other than the best is the foundation for a fulfilling life, regardless of whether a partner is present or not.
- You are free.
Take a look at your friends who are in a relationship. Are they all happy? I don’t think so.
Single people have a real freedom that they are not always able to appreciate. So stop being jealous, and better start enjoying your independence.
This is a time that belongs entirely to you. A time when you can eat all the dishes you want, and visit exactly the places you want to go, and at the same time you do not need to report to anyone.
Of course, you may have other commitments in the form of children, pets, or business, but if you don’t have a relationship, make the most of that time. Spread your wings, change jobs, go on a journey.
Who knows, maybe you’re just looking for love in the wrong place.
- This is not the end.
Your loneliness means that life goes on! You have friends you have yet to meet, cities you haven’t seen yet, and new life experiences you can’t even imagine yet.
The lack of attachment to a romantic partner means that you have unlimited possibilities.
- You are an absolutely complete person.
In fact, the phrase “the second half” can be safely thrown into the lexical trash can. The idea that you are only half human until you meet your love is very funny.
If you understand this, you will be able to look at life in a completely new way.
You are by definition a full-fledged person, and if there is a void in your life, then you are the only person who can fill it. And no one else.
- You can shape your own Life.
Imagine for a moment that you can look into the future and know for sure that you will never meet your love.
How would your lifestyle change in this case? Would you spend more time with your family and friends? Would you begin to strive to visit all the continents of the world? Would you get a new education? Would you stop being afraid to take risks?
In fact, the idea that we should eventually meet some person and then start meeting their needs is very limiting for us…
If you think about it, it seems completely crazy that we have to adjust all our plans to the appearance of this mythical person in our lives.
When the fear of living this life alone is replaced by the certainty of it, a sense of real freedom comes to us.
Live your life as if you are not destined to find your romantic love, and you will be true to yourself, your desires and dreams.
Of course, there is no crystal ball that we can look into to see our future. But know that if you live as if you will never meet love, you can do amazing things.
And then the person you meet will be a conscious choice, not just a chance to color your dreary existence.
Do some people really never find their love?
The honest answer: yes, some people go through life without knowing a real love relationship.
Does this mean that you should panic? The answer is no.
You may worry about being one of these lonely and unhappy people for the rest of your life.
But if you really read this article carefully (and not just scroll through it), you will understand that love is not the whole of life, since a single life has its advantages.
Moreover, many people, even 100% sure that life for them is a solitary swim, eventually meet their true love. You can’t know exactly when it’s going to happen, or if it’s going to happen at all. This is not a thing that can be accurately predicted.
You just need to stay open for a possible meeting and live a full life.
And if you just recently broke up with your loved one, you may feel that you will never meet the person you love again. But… if you’ve had at least one such encounter, what’s stopping you from meeting love again?