How to understand that a man is in love?
A person in love may look slightly inadequate from the outside. Chemistry, hormones, everything. Well, the way a man in love behaves is generally surprising — he changes so much. If you’re still not sure how he feels about you, and you really want to know, I’ve prepared a small checklist .
Believe me, there are a number of obvious signs that clearly speak about the attitude of a man to a woman.
Even if he hides his feelings as well as a special agent, you can figure him out. About falling in love, and even about the fact that the girl just likes it, say the look, gestures, facial expressions and all his behavior.
There are 10 main signs of a man in love, take a notebook, a pen-write it down.
The humorist no longer pokes jokes, the chatterbox no longer tells funny stories, and the introverted smartass suddenly starts talking.
These are all signs of pleasant stress. It means he cares about you. He will preen himself and even change his face and posture in front of you.
Even a mega-confident brutal male will break into a smile, because he is damn pleased with your company. And he will do everything to make it happen more often.
- Sincere interest.
A man in love will be interested in your affairs. He’ll want to know more about you.
Hobbies, family and relatives, interests, preferences, favorite movies and flowers — some of these topics will pop up in the conversation.
A man sincerely takes part in your life and tries to make it as easy as possible: he will not allow you to freeze, wear heavy things, be hungry, experience everyday inconveniences, etc.
It is important to him how you got to work or school, what your mood is, whether you are dressed warmly enough, whether you are hungry.
He will always give you a ride home or take you in a taxi as a last resort, but he will not send you alone. How do they send you home after a date? Write in the comments!
- Time and attention.
A very important criterion. Remember: if a man is not indifferent to you, whether he is 100 thousand times the president of something or a goodwill ambassador on another continent — he will find time to contact you and see you!
I have repeatedly said that normal men are always busy, but if he is in love — he can.
And this should be appreciated.
An interested man invests his resources in a woman. Any: time, money, physical help, nerves, strength, your connections.
For him, this is a natural manifestation of care and love – in actions.
Nuance! If you get a lot of gifts from him, and nothing else — do not rush to draw conclusions about falling in love. Maybe he just wants to”pay off”. There can be a lot of reasons: he is an alphonse or just married, for example.
A man in love is by default set up for a long-term, not a one-time relationship. Because he is gentle and sensitive to you, he will not put pressure on you.
But this is not a reason to manipulate flirt (which has not yet happened).
Although at the same time he insanely wants you-if he is a physically healthy normal man. But he’s willing to wait if you need time.
Because for him, as a person, you are important and valuable. He sees his future next to you.
A man who is sincerely in love will never be shy about the object of his passion. On the contrary, he will want to shout to the whole world: “Here it is, it is mine, look what it is!”.
Whenever possible, he will show you to people who are important to him: friends, relatives, mom and dad, and will be proud of it.
He is happy to be with you in public, but at the same time gently claims his rights to you. In a good way. Sometimes excessively jealous for the same reason, at first it is normal.
- Protection and care.
The psychology of a man in love is simple: it turns on the instincts! And even the thinnest drysch will become your knight and protector.
It does not matter from the yard punks, a pack of stray dogs or from the boorish cashier in the supermarket. He will want to protect you from any troubles, stress, and will do it.
He will protect you with his body, money, if necessary (for example, to urgently pay off a debt or repay a loan), in a word. It will solve, solve, organize, monitor, help, and try to ensure your safety at all levels.
It’s not about flirt. This is about more intimate and touching things: the desire to hold your hand, pat your back, hug, kiss your forehead, fix your hair, just be close to you as often as possible.
You won’t be enough for him all the time. Men rarely want to touch women they aren’t attracted to.
A person in love is different from an “ordinary”person. He sees everything in pink, with rainbows and unicorns all around.
Therefore, he idealizes his object of adoration and does not see its shortcomings, or considers them cute and harmless.
Do you want to see if he’s in love with you? Show him your weak side – and see how he reacts.
And another thing: he tries, in turn, to be better for you. To wear what you have paid a compliment to, too, to dress up and show your best side. In general, to spread the tail.
If you are already dating, it happens more than once a week on the night from Friday to Saturday.
There is a tangible “progress” in your relationship: after a while, you are already familiar with each other’s inner circle, then you go on vacation together and spend more and more time together.
He does not disappear suddenly and vaguely, without explanation, and tries to always be in touch with you.
About why and what men use this technique in life, I tell you in detail on my free online course Man: honest instructions.
And sign language.
Relationship psychology suggests considering nonverbal signs as well.
Through facial expressions, gestures, and posture, both men and women give each other the clearest signals.
a straightened chest, a drawn-in stomach, as they say, he “priosanivaetsya”, plays with muscles-even if they are not there; the tilt of the head and the turn of the body in your direction when communicating, as well as the direction of the toes of the shoes to you; dilated pupils, a long gaze, bright eyes, his gaze periodically glides over your entire body, a glance at you stealthily, while you do not see; flaring nostrils and periodic deep sighs; the desire to accidentally touch, enter your “intimate zone” (closer than 50 cm).); instinctive preening (straightens your hair, pulls your tie, cufflinks, the tip of your nose or chin when communicating with you), blowing non-existent dust from your jacket, etc.; unconsciously “mirrors” your gestures and facial expressions, thus trying to subconsciously get closer to you, tune in to your field.
If you have noticed these moments — it is not a fact that he is head over heels in love, but he is definitely not indifferent.
Don’t slow down!
It is very easy to understand that a man is in love. It’s a little harder to take a healthy initiative and show him that you like him too. Here you need to be careful, soft and feminine.
But the development of events depends on you — you are the one who gives the green light.
And don’t forget that love lives for three years. I’m sure Begbeder was talking about falling in love.
This means that the charm will pass very soon, and in order to transfer the relationship to the level of love, you will have to work on them, including yourself .