How do I apologize to a girl?
How to apologize to a girl if you have offended her a lot?
A relationship with a loved one in Samara is one of the most important and difficult things in our life. We have to constantly work on them to smooth out the rough edges and begin to truly understand and accept each other. However, to everyone’s great regret, often something goes wrong, mistakes are made, there are disappointing quarrels, and if you do not try to change the situation, it will turn into a real disaster. Therefore, it is very important to know how to apologize to the girl if offended.
It applies not only to men – it applies to all of humanity, regardless of gender, age and religion. Asking for forgiveness when you’ve made a mistake is perfectly normal and even necessary. It is also quite natural to experience excitement and timidity at the same time. Along with the apologies, the labels “henpecked”, “weak-willed” or “you have no pride”are not hung up. If this happens, it is worth seriously considering whether to continue relationships with people who think so narrowly and do not know how to admit that they are wrong. It is also a bad idea to apologize for everything, it will only ruin the relationship.
The fair sex usually experiences more from frustration, anger, and other strong negative or positive emotions. Do not forget about this to save your tender feelings and not cause even more pain to your beloved. Therefore, if the quarrel is really no longer like a harmless one and is rapidly turning into a terrible one, it is better to give the girl time and free space until she calms down. Just don’t walk away from her in silence and with a stern look. This can only increase the conflict. Say you want to keep the relationship going and apologize or talk to her later.
Depending on the depth of the failure and the severity of the error in understanding a particular girl, forgiveness can take a really long time. And it will not always be a matter of hurt pride, it can be really physically painful to see the face of a dear person who has done something terrible. All this does not mean that you need to stop trying to achieve forgiveness – be patient and have faith in mutual love.
The first step to solving any problem is to understand the cause.
This rule fully applies to the resolution of conflicts between lovers. To really understand why you made a mistake, you will have to do some self-examination. Try to be honest with yourself first, otherwise how can you then reveal the true reason to another person?
Think about what prompted you to such actions or words that led to a quarrel. Maybe it was an accident, the effect of overwork or the consequences of a banal outburst of anger at another person. Perhaps the root of the evil is hidden in hidden complexes, a character trait that is worth working on, or uncertainty in the relationship. Only you yourself, throwing away fear, will be able to get to the truth. Believe me, the other half will definitely appreciate your sincerity.
Search for a solution.
The final step of preparing to make amends. When the main reason for the quarrel is clear, it’s time to think about how to fix it. Try to imagine what the girl felt and what words would help to better convey the reason for what happened. The optimal solution will be one that will not allow you or your partner to feel any more pain about this. A real man always keeps his word – if you say that this will not happen again, you must do everything not to break the promise. The girl will remember your words, will love and respect even more when the promise will remain in force for a long (preferably infinite) time. Otherwise, the trust in the couple will be undermined, gradually and painfully bringing the separation closer.
Where to start.
The preparation is completed and the basics of women’s psychology are mastered, it’s time to start the main decisive actions.
- Think about the place and time when it is best to try to apologize. It’s always best to do it in person, especially after a serious argument.
- The first words after a quarrel should not be excuses or reasons – say clearly and sincerely, looking into the beautiful eyes of your couple:
- Sorry, I’m so sorry.
- I’m sorry, I hurt you.
- I’m sorry, it’s my fault.
Use one of the above or choose your own phrase that reflects your intention to honestly and consciously ask for forgiveness. Try to add an affectionate address to the girl, if she always liked it. This will help to soften the negative mood a little and remind her of your tender feelings.
- If the girl is still on edge and screams, listen calmly. Then it will become a little easier for her, some of the anger and resentment will come out with a cry.
- As mentioned above, if the beloved is still too upset and asks to leave, you need to listen and give her time.
- If the girl is more or less ready to listen to you, try to honestly tell you why you did what upset her so much. Try to be honest about why you did it. A woman’s intuition will almost always feel a lie, so you need to speak as truthfully as possible. Here you will be able to convey your motives only if you have already understood yourself and are ready to open up.
- Sorry, I’m sorry. I didn’t want to come home so late. I understand that you were worried and very upset, and I should have warned you. A friend was fired, he was furious, and we went to a bar in the basement after work. Pashka was so ill that he spoke without stopping. I only realized how much time had passed when I took out my phone. Then I noticed that there was no connection. I will always try to warn you not to make this mistake again.
- I’m sorry, I know how much you love your little niece, but I couldn’t go with you to her birthday party. We agreed a long time ago, and I have no excuses, but the reason is that I made a mistake in an important document that should be ready by morning. I had to stay late at work to fix it. I know you may be upset, but I want to make things right. Let’s go together to visit Masha on the weekend?
- I’m sorry, I’m sorry, I shouldn’t have reacted so sharply because I saw you in a cafe with a strange man. I know I should have listened to you first and not made a scene. I succumbed to jealousy and fear that our relationship, which is very important to me, is under threat. I really need to trust you more, and you can be mad at me. I will try my best to make it up to you.
- Let your lover think about the answer. Try to answer all the clarifying questions as honestly as you said your apologies. If she is as guilty of a quarrel as you are, don’t blame her in return. You appreciate this relationship and have taken the first step to restore it, so wait until she forgives you and realizes her guilt in what happened. Then you will discuss everything together, calming down a little and recovering from the quarrel.
At this stage, it is better not to get too close, not to touch and not to pull the girl into your arms.
- Most small and medium-intensity conflicts end by the 6th point. However, when a girl’s feelings are hurt more, she may not accept an apology so quickly. Then it is better to leave again, repeating that you are ready to give her time and will not stop trying to earn forgiveness.
How to ask for forgiveness: other ways.
You’ve apologized in words, and it’s time to try new ways to get the relationship back together. For the sake of a worthwhile girl, you can safely do something else.
After all, the harder you try to earn forgiveness, the higher your chances of success will be. Briefly about other methods:
- Write a letter in your own words, where you ask for forgiveness again, keeping in mind some of the rules above. It is very romantic if the text is on a separate sheet of paper and in a beautiful envelope. However, a cute postcard or a funny toy folded in the origami technique, which you need to unfold to read, will also work.
- A message created in verse will look very touching. The other half can feel like a real lady, for whom the knight wrote poems. Also, a beautiful syllable will show how long you tried and thought about it in the process of finding rhymes.
- The two previous options can be secretly delivered to your favorite both separately and together with a soft toy, a luxurious bouquet of flowers, a box of expensive sweets or chocolate. Tip: you don’t need to give a girl soft toys if you’ve never seen them in her possession before. She won’t appreciate it.
- A way for artists, musicians, photographers and other creative people who know how to create beautiful things. Nothing will remind you of a person so much as a gift made by them with their own hands. You can send a drawing to a girl, compose and play a melody, print out your shared photos or pictures from her favorite places, cut a bracelet out of wood, etc.
- Organize a romantic candlelit dinner and prepare at least a few dishes for it yourself. Especially useful it will be after a hard day’s work for the second half.
The list goes on and on, but the main thing that will help to establish a relationship is sincerity, care, the ability to keep your word and attention to your beloved and your relationship.