How to win a Chinese girl.
If you want to date a Chinese woman and try to get her attention, you will have to resort to special methods. Girls in China are not as straightforward as they are in the West, and are less quick-witted in romantic situations. Therefore, many methods of flirting that work with girls in the West, with Chinese women, are most likely doomed to failure.
The ChinaWhisper portal has compiled the top 10 tips that will help you melt the heart of almost any Chinese woman. Some items seem to be universal for all girls in the world, but, one way or another, there are some peculiarities in communicating with the opposite sex in China.
- Pay attention to some small detail and make a compliment.
Do not say that the girl is just beautiful, it is better to find something special in her and focus on it. For example, you can say that she looks good in this dress, or that this hair color suits her very well. This will give your words honesty and create the impression that you do not say such compliments to every girl.
- Express your admiration for China.
If you don’t know anything about Chinese culture, be sure to remember a few facts and use them in your attempts to win a Chinese woman. Admiring the history or culture of China will certainly make her smile. And if you already live in China, tell her that you want to settle here and ask her to help you learn more about local life.
- Feel free to exaggerate.
Simple compliments like “I like your hair” can be interpreted as a show of politeness. Therefore, exaggerate to let the girl know that you are making a compliment. For example, if she is wearing high heels, tell her that these heels really lengthen her legs.
- Be persistent.
Many Chinese girls are shy and will always try to deny your compliment. A very common response to a compliment from Chinese women is “Well, what are you, what are you!” (NǎLi, NǎLi/哪里, 哪里), which literally means ” Where? Where?”. Now you know that if she says something like that, you don’t have to look around for something.
- Focus on her personality.
Compliments to the personal qualities of girls, and in particular Chinese women, are usually more successful than compliments about appearance. Try to find out what she does and what kind of education she has. Show her how smart you think she is, and even if she makes a mistake or says something stupid, don’t forget to tell her that it’s very cute. Chinese girls are turned on all things cute, and they will do anything to appear so.
- Start learning Chinese.
Chinese women are crazy about foreigners who speak good Chinese. If you flirt with a girl in her native language, you can become a living legend. Especially if you are in a small town.
- Learn the beauty standards in China.
Remember that beauty standards differ across cultures, and China is no exception. Before you make compliments about the appearance of a girl, you should know what is considered beautiful in China. In general, all Chinese women want to appear tall, have long legs, a very light complexion, a narrow, almost triangular face with a dimple on the chin and eyes with long eyelashes. Compliments directed at one of these points will undoubtedly be successful.
- Try to avoid ready-made flirting schemes.
The problem with all ready-made flirting schemes is that they never work. Someone invented them 100 years ago and some men are sure that they still work. To use these schemes with women of another culture is more than pointless and ridiculous, as it will seem even more ridiculous to them. In general, avoid ready-made schemes of flirting, jokes and sarcasm. Chinese women are not used to such communication and most likely will not understand you.
- Don’t call it funny.
In any case, do not call it funny (huájī/滑稽), this word has a negative connotation in Chinese. If she’s acting funny, you’d better go to tip # 5 and call her cute.
- Avoid talking about past relationships.
When she asks you how many girls you’ve had before her, lie. Usually Chinese women are not looking for a partner for a frivolous relationship, they are looking for a husband. Even what may seem like a minor date will be an opportunity for her to evaluate you and see if you are a good partner for a long-term relationship. If you are also looking for a wife, tell her that you want to start a family and would be happy to have a couple of half-breed children someday. It would definitely melt her heart.